Getting Over it (Part 2)
So how do you keep yourself from thinking about your ex lover and save yourself from this emotional rollercoaster? Well, the best way would be to distract yourself, talk to people, keep yourself busy, scrub the toilet whatever. Yeah, I know it’s easier said than done cause I’ve been there but just try. And don’t try not to think about him because it will just make you think more, it’s complicated but when your brain wants to think, give it some time to think and just let it pass.
Get rid of the things that remind you of him, for instance, the toy, the photographs, the accessories. If you don’t have the heart to do it, ask someone to help you do the job.
Change that specific caller ID or ringtone that you set for him. Delete the photos in your phone, erase the messages. But if you insist to keep them but just can’t bear to see them at the moment, let your friend hide them somewhere and not tell you. But you do know that the memories that your brain remembers cannot be taken away by anyone at any cost.
As I mentioned, I have great people around me who are always up to listen to 1,257 million times of my story. And they would force feed me, give me lectures, bring me out, encourage me, motivate me and most of all, bring me out from me who was with him. This might sound confusing but I’ve come to realize that I wasn’t fully myself during this past 2.5 years of my relationship, I was “his girlfriend” and there’s a big difference between that. I don’t want to go into details but try to find yourself again. How were you before you met him? If there are things that he doesn’t like you doing it but you do, do it. That’s the first step in building yourself again.
If the situation allows you, go travelling with some friends. I don’t suggest going alone because you might think of him and try to call him which is not a good idea. And don’t listen to sad songs or heartbroken songs, they are the worst lol. And drink a lot of water because you need to be hydrated.
Plan your future. When I was with him, I planned my future with him in it but now it’s time to plan my own, just for myself. Replace your sadness and anger with excitement for your future plans, it helps. If you are willing to take risks or want to try something new, do things you’ve never done before, get out of your comfort zone and move to a new country or something. Take it as this is god’s way of leading us to something better for us.
Last but not least, just like what I’m doing now, write a letter to yourself, write a letter to him, which you don’t necessarily have to send out, and write down the things you don’t like about him. What I’ve wrote down so far are the words that my friends and the internet gave me and I’m noting down so that whenever I feel like giving in, I can read again and remind myself that I can do it.
